Understanding the Cycle of Violence
Hi, I’m Tahlequah criminal attorney Aaron Grubb at Wirth Law Office, and in this video, we’re going to talk about what’s called the cycle of violence. Recognizing domestic violence can be incredibly difficult, especially when you’re in the middle of it.
Many states, including Oklahoma, have identified a common cycle of violence that abusive relationships often follow. Understanding this cycle can help you recognize warning signs and take action.
The Phases of the Cycle
1️⃣ Honeymoon Phase – Everything seems fine, the relationship feels stable, and the abuser may even be charming and affectionate.
2️⃣ Tension Building – Small outbursts begin, and the victim may feel like they’re walking on eggshells to avoid triggering the abuser. There’s a growing sense of unease, and minor conflicts escalate.
3️⃣ Explosion – The tension reaches a breaking point, leading to an outburst of violence. This could range from verbal abuse and threats to physical aggression, such as pushing, slapping, or more severe harm.
4️⃣ Reconciliation (Love Bombing) – After the violence, the abuser appears deeply remorseful, showering their partner with apologies, gifts, and promises that it will never happen again. This manipulation keeps the victim in the cycle, hoping things will change.
Breaking the Pattern
Unfortunately, this cycle tends to repeat — honeymoon, tension, explosion, apology — trapping victims in an ongoing pattern of abuse. If this sounds familiar to you or someone you know, you are not alone, and help is available.
Contact Wirth Law Office today. We can provide the legal support and guidance you need to protect yourself and break the cycle.
Take Action – Schedule Your Strategy Session
And again, my name is Aaron Grubb, I’m a Tahlequah Criminal Defense Attorney here at Wirth Law Office. If you’re ready to take the first step toward safety and recovery, call us at (918) 458-2677 to schedule a low-cost initial strategy session. Your well-being is our priority!
